Essays & Insights

Read This If You’re At A Relationship Crossroads

This summer has consisted of my legs dangling across his as we read in the sunshine. It’s been sleepovers in sweaty sheets. It’s been picking lettuce and swiss chard from…
9 Vanilla Things People Do In Bed That They Think Are Totally Racy

1. Experimental Bondage If I have one more basic bitch drunkenly confess to me that she totally let her boyfriend tie her up – even though she knows that it’s…
17 Little-Known Facts About The Porn Industry

I recently finished a 6-month foray into Brooklyn’s porn industry—the result of which you can read here. To say that I began my investigation as a noob would be putting…
There’s A Difference Between Sex and a Random Hookup

Not to be blunt. But, there’s a difference between fucking someone and having sex. Random hookups. One night stands. Nights you leave the bar with a stranger. When you wake…
From Rising Pornstar To Ghost: What Happened To Bambi Woods?

You may not know the name Bambi Woods, but you’ve likely heard of the adult film Debbie Does Dallas. Made in 1978, it’s regarded as one of the most important…
Read This If You’re Struggling To Love Your Body

“Tati, let me see the dress already!” I’m 10 years old, and my face is in my hands. I’m sitting in a Bloomingdale’s fitting room with a tiny lavender gown…
Clothing Optional: What It’s Like To Be A Nudist

It is 1:33 a.m. on a Saturday night and I am at church. Or more precisely, I am standing on the roof of a Ukrainian cathedral in North Melbourne. “I…
Rashida Jones Has Something To Say About Porn, And We Should All Listen

“That message—that really homogenized, myopic message—that your sex is the thing that makes you valuable—that is your currency—that limits women’s choices.”
I Can’t Deny That I’m ‘A Smoker’ Anymore (And That Cigarettes Make Me Feel Cool)

Back when I wore Juicy tracksuits sincerely and had yet to reclaim Adidas. When my sexual encyclopedia was written exclusively by Carrie Bradshaw and a few friends’ older sisters. When…
9 ‘PG-13’ Ways You Know Sex With Him Is Going To Be Good

1. He keeps his nails trimmed. Nobody wants to hook up with someone who has hands like those claw arcade games. Someone who keeps up with personal hygiene, and that…