Essays & Insights

Sex Is Hard is a brand new(!) column geared at answering sex questions. I mean, it’s not a complicated premise. But just about everything else we’re going to talk about will…

What is hybristophilia? Most modern women would agree that they want a man who’s sensitive, empathetic, generous, selfless, and gentle. So why is it that every time a man gains…

Note: This is a response piece to Chelsea Fagan’s 13 Very Specific Types of Guys That Are Incredibly Hot 1. The sporty girl I can appreciate a girl who seriously takes…

My whole life, I have related better to women than men. In my formative years, I sought girls out as friends and allies. I was never interested in sports and…

1. You get to be selfish without feeling selfish. When no one else is in the sexual equation, you don’t have to feel bad about prioritizing your sensual needs. Masturbating…

“I’m fine.” “That dress looks great on you.” “Everything is going great.” As women, we lie all the time — sometimes to other people, but more often to ourselves. It’s…

It may surprise you to know that I, Jillian Paulson, am in a relationship. A committed one, where we say “love” sometimes. I know, it’s crazy. I’ve never been much…

Young girls are perhaps the most sexual of all human beings. They do a variety of weird and seemingly unexplainable things. How do I know they do these things? It’s…

Many adults with foot fetishes trace their fixation back to a childhood event such as being tickled in their feet during horseplay, some dim distant memory where they simultaneously felt…

If you like the boy next door, you should read Naked by Gina Gordon. “Violet Walker has been hiding. Withdrawn after a terrible car accident, she is worried about going…